TRANSFORMATION (PART 4)
Transformation, or any type of change is never a matter of ability, it’s a matter of motivation.
Last weekend in Tahoe as I was gliding on the ski lift above these snowed in trees, I was chatting with a new friend whose husband, in his fifties, is starting to learn how to ski. It’s impressive, but what’s amazing, is that he’s 80% blind. He’s a top executive also.
That sort of motivation has always been in my bones, and this summer when I visited my dad, he for the first time acknowledged my drive since I was a child. He said he’s been thinking that growing in my situation has helped me be where I am today. Growing up in communist Romania was perhaps the perfect environment for building drive: everyone was willing to bust their butt to seize even the smallest opportunity. For me, the stakes were even higher: I had to help my mom prove to the world that a divorcee mom can raise “good” kids. She reminded me often and I took that responsibility to heart.
Over time, I changed the way I thought of myself. From believing I’m smart (before my parents divorced) to believing I’m mediocre (right after their divorce, in middle school, my grades and confidence dropped significantly), to believing I’m brilliant (in second half of high school). That belief hasn’t always stayed strong, and the higher I raised the stakes, the more I wavered but always cane back to my “normal”, my own standard, my own identity, my own belief that I AM brilliant.
I now believe that EVERYONE is brilliant, that the potential is there for every single one of us. Beliefs matter, and how we see ourselves is everything.
Transformation requires a clean, crisp, honest inventory of our true, long held beliefs of who we are. That inventory will make our old, outdated self limiting beliefs come to light. They can be replaced with other beliefs, that can better support us on our Path of happiness.
How would you see yourself in your wildest dreams? If you believed you are a brilliant visionary and leader, what would you create? How would you show up in your relationships?
